Fat, Fat, Full, Full, Oh What A Relief?

The light comes on one day and you realize you are fat. I could say it nicely. You have a few more pounds; you're a fuller figured woman; overweight.

That is the problem, we keep telling ourselves lies and the mind is trying to talk some sense into us.

You've done it. I've done it. Tell yourself you are skinny; buy into the skinny program.

My approach has always been to call a spade a spade.

You will not get anywhere with lies. They don't work. If you hate you fat body, then
it will continue to perform even after you take off the fat pounds to go to work to put back on the pounds.

How to Avoid Stressful Situations Adding Extra Pounds

There are a lot of reasons why people put on weight. Eating is just one of the many causes of weight gain. When most people look at a person who is overweight, eating is the first thought.

It is so easy to point fingers and criticize. I don’t think anyone starts out in life desiring to stretch their body’s skin in such a way they don’t look like the person they started out as.

Things happen. Unless you have been there don’t pass judgment.

I thought I would talk about stress and its impact. I was watching a friend who is full figured already during the holiday season. It was as if she had the munchies. She snacked and ate, snacked and ate.

As I watched her, it occurred to me that her eating was not about being hungry but more about something else and then it occurred to me she was once an addict.

Now that she was no longer on drugs, she had substituted food in all forms to quiet the cravings. The drug craving was causing her to be stressed and eating was her outlet for the stress.

Are you trying to eat away your stress? How do you know? The next time you feel upset, take inventory of what is going on in your mind; what are you thinking of? Did you reach for something to snack on or for food?

Become aware of your eating habits and what is associated with them. You can take control. Devise a plan of action for eating away emotional disturbances, or coping with stress.

Some of the things I do: keep a journal, drink water instead of snack, eat fruity snacks, or protein snack, do some physical activity, play a game, watch exercise videos.

Remember the power is in your hands. The decisions about your body are yours. Whatever you do, don’t do it for others, do it for yourself. That is the real key to health and fitness.

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No More Short Pants: Capri's Will Do

Have you noticed how when you put on short pants they seem to ride up your leg, the friction between your legs causes them to ride up?So why bother when it is unattractive. And you won’t feel good about the experience.

No more short pants for you for awhile, unless you just choose to torture yourself.Personally, I have never liked short pants even when I was skinny, or a 5/6. Capris’ are in for full bodied women like us. Come to think of it they look better on the full bodied figures than smaller figures. . . Just my opinion.

I prefer the mid leg style myself. Visit your local department store, try on a few and see which ones you like.Stop seeing the negative side of who you are but began to see the best you, you can be, dress and present.You may want to go to my blog talk show (blogtalkradio.com/changinglives), where myself and my co-host talked much about what to do with the full bodied figure.

Oh, by the way, the show title is: Is Your Job Packing On The Pounds?My co-host was my husband, of course, who is skinny and came into my life at 5/6. Some styles and cuts are not for everyone.

I found out that the more expensive a piece of clothing,the sizes are smaller and the fit is better.The decisions about your size should be yours and what you do with it should never be dependent on what others want you to do.Anyway, got to go.

Will return and talk to you again soon.

Peace out!

Have You Talked To Your Body Today?

Love your body. Why would your body go to work to take off the pounds if you don’t love it in the condition it is in?

Okay, I love my stomach; I love my thighs; I love my butt. Even though you don’t look pleasant to my eyes, I still love you.

You are what you are because of what I did to you. I don’t blame you. I wouldn’t get any smaller either, if someone called me names and showed me no love.

There are things about you that I don’t like but it’s my fault you’re like this. I take full responsibility.

I purpose to win you over. You are my friend and I love you just the way you are.
You might not believe that but I do.

I’m struggling to love you just the way you are because I have these images in my head from what others look like and what I thought I wanted but not any more.

I want the body I want because it is to please me.

Every where you learn it is about getting skinny, not being fat. What’s wrong with fat? Fat cushions your organs. Without it, you will die.

God, help me to love this body like it is. Help me to look at myself in the mirror and instead of disgust, see love.

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Today I Gave Myself A Breast Lift!

This morning when I got up I put on a cotton, short sleeve, to the waist not too tight,shirt. As I gazed in the mirror I thought, “This shirt deserves to look better. How can I improve its appearance on this body?” Even my shoulders seemed to sag a bit.”

Then I remembered a friend of mine invented a bra clip thingy. I had tossed it into my draw to use but hadn’t really bothered.

The search was on. I found it but I couldn’t seem to make it work. I tried a few times until I broke it trying to snap it.

I looked on my dresser and there sat a small shopping bag with two cord handles. I cut one snapped my bra, gathered the two straps, tied the cord, adjusted my bra and it was instant transformation. IT WORKED WONDERS!

Working with what you have in excess pounds requires some creativity. Why be miserable about your weight? Do something about what you have.

If a bra clip will lift your boobs and give you that confident feeling. DO IT!

Feel good right in the body you’re in, is the first step to the right mindset to welcome your new body.


(For more about getting in the right mindset, read an excerpt from Sue Hodkinson's book: May I Have This Dance? at www.comebelovedcome.com

Take the Weight Off Then What?

Are you fighting the battle of the bulge? Your thighs rubbing together? Excessive sweating when its hot, maybe even a rash? They never seem to make the chairs wide enough in some places, even in church? Even your significant other may turn his head when he walks in the room where you stand naked.

The worst thing you can do is began to beat up on yourself, want to avoid being around skinny weight conscious people, maybe you might even want to run-a-way and hide because you are so ashamed of your body weight.

What is wrong with fat, bulges, etc. anyway? Why do we have to have other people dictate to us how we should look? All of us can’t look like the picture perfect models that they use in those commercials to lie to us, make us think that if we buy their product, we are going to grow thin.

They entice us with looks to die for, magic pills, drinks and one more spa to join. I ask you has it worked for you? It sure hasn’t worked for me.

I’ve had enough trying to please everyone else, trying to live up to everyone else’s standards.How about you? So what can we do about all of this commercialism aimed at our wishful thinking?

I don’t know about you. I quit. If I don’t like the body I’m in, how am I going to like my new makeover thin body? Been there done that. Took the challenge, lost the weight, gained it all back. How about you?

I’ve stopped moaning and groaning about it. My new program is to accept myself right where I am. Are you ready to admit who you really are. We are fat. We are overweight.No matter how much we tell ourselves we are thin. We are not. We have been fat all of our life practically. So why are we forcing a lie on the truth?

You have tried everything else and nothing has worked. From now on, stand in front of that mirror and admit who you are, tell yourself how much you love your fat stomach, your fat thighs and big butt.

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